THE 3 SCARIEST WORDS A BOY CAN HEAR: “BE A MAN!”
Joe Ehrman is a sports insider. He was a college All-American athlete who played professional football for 13 years. Among numerous awards, Joe has been named “The Most Important Coach in America” for his work to transform the culture of sports.
“If we could change these words, we could change the world”.
Boys are taught, from a very young age, they must separate their hearts from their heads to be men. They’re taught that to have and show emotions is a failure of masculinity. Is that not the repression of the very thing that makes us human?
As a pastor over the past 30 years, Joe often accompanies individuals on their death bed. He has consistently observed that men judge the success of their lives on 2 criteria only:
1- Relationships: To love and be loved: How is your relationship with your partner, parents, and children? Are you loving and allowing yourself to be loved to the best of your capability? As men, who are incentivized from a young age to compete and dominate, most of us aren’t raised to be relationally successful.
2- Cause: Make a world a better place: Every one of us has a responsibility to give back. How are you making the world a better place? What causes are you committed to?
Watch Joe Ehrman talk about his experiences with toxic masculinity and offer us his wisdom into what healthy masculinity is build around.
What can I expect from this video?
Joe looks at the impact of toxic masculinity through the lens of sports.
Sports will engage more individuals, families, and communities than any other shared activity or organizations globally. Sports have become almost religion-like. They offer their followers values for success, codes of conduct and heroes.
Sports have always been a metaphor for social change. Until recently that we have moved into the “win at all cost” mentality, sports have been the vehicle for social progress. Think the about the impact of Jackie Robinson, Mohammad Ali and Billie Jean King in bringing important topics into political and mainstream consciousness.