DON’T “ACT LIKE A MAN.”
Telling powerful stories from his own life, Tony Porter shows how acting like a man, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other.
Men’s violence against women is the number 1 health concern for women internationally.
Men must become part of the solution and break free of the “Man Box.”
Watch this insightful talk as Tony Porter explores toxic masculinity through sharing powerful stories from his own life.
As men, most of us have been socialized to stay within the parameters of the Man Box. As a society, we reward those that rank high within this box and punish those that venture outside of it.
Growing up in New York
Tony recalls being taught from an early age that men have to be tough, strong, courageous and dominating. Men must not show pain, emotion (with the exception of anger) or fear. He was taught that men are in charge, they lead and that they are superior. He was taught that women are weak, of less value and sexual objects.
Starting From Childhood
Tony bravely shares stories about how differently he used to react to emotions expressed from his daughter than his son. He reminisces about the first time he saw his dad cry and the its lasting impression on him. He tells stories about his first sexual experience as a 12 year old.
Violence Against Women
Tony suggests violence against women stems from collective socializing of men that assigns less value to femininity, views women as property and objectifies women sexually.